Nothing like young love. ahhhh. I thoroughly enjoy using it to humor myself. Whenever I’m out to dinner, I always make an effort to use that time to people-watch, especially dates! I love sitting near a bar at night watching guys trying to pick up girls and them either flirting or rejecting them big time. I also love seeing very awkward couples out for a dinner date. They usually sit there without saying much, with their faces down at their plates, trying to act perfect. The woman usually orders a water and salad, or something she doesn’t truly want. The guy tries to eat as delicately as he can, but ordering what he wants and likes.
Observing this so much, I just don’t understand it. Why put yourselves in that position? Go out with a group of friends to break the tension/awkwardness and so that you’re somewhere that you can be yourselves in an environment you’re comfortable in. I’m not sure why people put themselves in such a position that the date is hardly enjoyable. Why does a movie usually follow a dinner? It’s because it’s a place of silence where there’s no talking involved, so it feels okay not to talk. That’s why!
Hell, for me, I never go for any of that. I don’t want a dinner/movie. For me I love whatever is fun/simplistic. Take me to a water/amusement park, bowling, rock climbing, skating/bladding, to laser tag, a scenic view of our beautiful city, an evening walk, or to one of those amazing trampoline places! Plus, going places like that automatically engages conversation with a lot of laughs and good times. I’m like a little child, too. Growing up as the youngest I always wished to have someone interested in playing games with me. Never having that wish fulfilled I’m still that way! Pull out a board game. Candyland is a good enough date-night for me (and cheap!!!)
The holiday can make dating even more troublesome. People struggle to figure out what to buy their new bf/gf. Why’s it so difficult? I’d be very happy with a box of my favorite Poptarts with a bow ontop. BAM. Easy! If buying Poptarts seems less than classy or whatever you see it as, take me to the Nike store & buy me membership to LA fitness. Someone sporty like me would die and go to heaven with such simple gifts. Screw all the fancy jewelery that you’re guaranteed to get wrong, the cards, the flowers, etc. Again, why do people make dating hard? If gifting is something you chose to do, simply buy whatever they’re into and like, and they’ll be happy!
What else is there? Not so much awkward, but just dating in general. I hate neediness and jealousy. Why do girls get so angry and jealous of guys hanging out with their guy pals!? I can understand it a little with their female buddies, but c’mon, if you’re that insecure, dump his ass. The same goes for guys. I have tons of guy friends. I expect to be able to hang out with them, and you can do the same.
As for neediness, I’m perfectly content being in my bed, on my laptop, watching a movie on TV. I don’t need to be with some one all the time, and don’t have the time for it. Why do people expect to be with each other so much!? No wonder relationships fall apart. When you get a gf/bf, you’re life shouldn’t stop. You shouldn’t neglect the rest of your friends/family/work/hobbies. Geesh!
I also feel that if dating is ever awkward or hard, then that couple usually just isn’t meant to be a pair. There should never be a struggle to talk on a date or spend in eternity picking out a gift. If conversation doesn’t flow and gift ideas aren’t endless, then you don’t have enough in common, and you don’t know enough about that person. I’d say find someone else, but I just love seeing it while I’m out to dinner, so keep on with the awkward dates!
Oh, and to the men–Any girl that tries to rip you from your video games (or any hobby she doesn’t like that’s not ridiculous), isn’t worth it! find someone cooler that will join you!